There’s a firm timeline for those thinking about popping the question.
Sami Wunder, a globally recognized dating coach, is transforming the love lives of aspiring brides by giving women a clear roadmap to securing a marriage proposal in as little as 90 days.
Her approach? Cut out the “girlfriend stage” entirely.
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“[It’s the] idea that you don’t have to be test-driven for years in order for a man to make up his mind that he wants to propose to you,” Wunder, a married mother of two based in the UK, shared during her recent sit-down on ITV’s “This Morning.”
But the self-styled “get the ring” guru isn’t about rushing people into decisions they’ll regret.
Instead, her philosophy centers on helping clients build deep, genuine connections with partners who are truly ready to commit for the long haul.
“This is not about pushing for marriage in 90 days,” she made clear. “This is about making sure you’re not spending five years, sometimes even 10 years, with a partner who never had the intention of marrying you in the first place.”
Waiting around for a proposal has, sadly, become routine in today’s dating culture, as marriage has steadily dropped down the priority list for Gen Z and millennial singles in recent years. But for the 57% of hopeless romantics who still dream of saying “I do,” wading through the messy modern dating scene in search of something real has become an exhausting and often fruitless endeavor.
Wunder, however, believes finding a lasting relationship doesn’t have to feel like an uphill battle.
In fact, her skip-the-girlfriend-stage method has already helped over 1,300 clients “attract healthy, happy marriages and proposals.”
And it all begins right at the very start of a new connection.
“The most important thing is to be upfront about it and honest with yourself, and then date with discernment and actually look for people who are looking for something similar,” Wunder advised. “You don’t have to say, ‘I wanna marry you.'”
“But you can ultimately say, ‘I am with the right person looking for marriage, family and forever commitment,'” she said. “And if it scares people, they’re not the one. This is about being honest.”
A big part of that honesty, according to Wunder, comes down to truly listening.
“First and foremost, you want to check for intention,” she urged. “So that means even as a first conversation on a dating app on the first date, you want to say, ‘What are you looking for?’ and you want to hear closely what the person says.”
If a potential partner’s goals don’t match yours, it’s better to walk away early.
“I think a lot of women think that they’re going to be the exception and somehow change someone’s mind,” Wunder noted.
“And the third thing you really want to do is to check for consistency and action,” she added. “Anyone can sweet lip service you and tell you, ‘I’m looking for the real thing.'”
“But then, if they are truly intentional about building a connection with you, you’ll see consistency in communication… they’re not going to leave you guessing.”
The relationship expert also encouraged women who have marriage on their minds to take things at a measured pace during those first 90 days of dating.
Rather than rushing headfirst into commitment with the first promising prospect, Wunder recommends waiting a full three months before becoming exclusive, moving in together, or getting physically intimate.
She believes holding back on intimacy early on gives the right kind of man a real chance to connect with a woman on a deeper level — to get to know her “soul.”
“What’s more important, not only to observe their actions, but also to observe them,” said Wunder. “How they handle stress, how they handle anger, how they handle a hard day, and you need all of that information.”
“That’s why I say don’t get exclusive too quickly.”
Moving too fast, Wunder warned, can actually push an engagement further out of reach.
